Posted on June 28, 2011
As many of you know, Episode 6 of the Bachelorette aired last night from Hong Kong, and we’re down to eight Bachelors. Or is it really nine given the Bentley factor? Well, I am happy to report that just a few minutes into the show, it was confirmed – Bentley’s gone; he’s out! Alleluia. But first he had to waste everyone’s time and money and fly halfway around the world just to tell Ashley that there should be a period at the end of the “…” (a.k.a., dot dot dot). I’m just happy he didn’t try to continue to string Ashley along, but he didn’t, and now Ashley has a better sense of the true Bentley. As she said, “I cannot believe I wasted so much time on Bentley both with him and thinking about him when he left. He disrespected me to the core.” And then she uttered her final words on the matter, “Bentley, if you’re watching, *%&$* (expletive) you. I’m done with you.” Couldn’t have said it better myself.
The First One-on-One Date – was with Lucas, 30, an Oil Field Equipment Distributor from Odessa, TX. He and Ashley went to Kowloon (see photo), walked around, tasted the local fare and then sailed on a “pirate” ship in Hong Kong’s harbor. There they bonded and connected, and he shared his thoughts and feelings about his divorce. Whatever it was, it was enough for Ashley to give him a rose. She feels “like a woman” when she is with him. She feels so protected, and she says that he’s “such a man.” She deems their first date (and it’s their first kiss too) as one of the “most romantic nights in her life.” Wow – it didn’t look that great to me?!
The Group Dragon Boat Racing Date – was with Constantine, Ben, Blake, Ryan, Mickey and Ames. Not only are they going Dragon Boat Racing, but they have to recruit six additional rowers for each boat. Now that was fun to watch…especially Constantine and Ben who ended up giving up on the recruitment of others and donned red robes, which ultimately was enough to bring them a following and therefore six rowers. Anyway, the bottom line of this date was that Ryan got the date rose, which made everyone else mad and left them scratching their heads. As I mentioned in my first recap, the men all feel that they are quite different from Ryan, and they wonder that if Ashley wants him - as evidenced by giving him the group date rose – how could she want them too? As Ben says, “Maybe she hasn’t experienced the Ryan we know and can’t stand.”
The Second One-on-One Date – was with J.P., 34, a Construction Manager from New York, NY. And let’s just suffice it to say that things always seem to get hot and heavy with them (see photo of Ashley and J.P.). Of all the connections, this seems to be the most intense and genuine (though I think Ben might be the runner up or maybe it’s just that I became partial to him when he admitted that he loved Ashley on the group date??). In fact, Ashley confides to J.P. about Bentley’s visit to Hong Kong a few days earlier. She hasn’t shared this information with anyone else, which is quite significant in my opinion. He understands where she is coming from, and she feels completely relieved that she has gotten her feelings about and actions with Bentley off her chest. They continue with their date getting on the “Peak Tram” and saying that “things are perfect. We’re on the right track (get it??).” Basically, they are digging each other, and of course, Ashley gives him a rose.
The Rose Ceremony
After telling J.P. about the Bentley saga and feeling so good that she has, Ashley decides to share this same information with the other seven bachelors as well. Ooops….the rest of the gang doesn’t react as favorably as J.P. did the night before. Mickey, Lucas, Blake and Constantine seem the most annoyed; they say that they feel like they have been lied to. They focus on their feelings of betrayal and don’t seem to understand her perspective. They complain that they have sacrificed so much for her and now they find out she has been harboring secret feelings for Bentley. I have three things to say in response…..
- Life is not too bad for them right now considering they have been traveling – virtually for free – throughout Asia for the past several weeks.
- All is fair in love and war.
- You should appreciate Ashley for her honesty and not chastise her for it; honesty is a good way to build a foundation for a relationship.
Ryan and Ames seem to take the news in stride for the most part. And of course, J.P. has already been clued in. The bottom line is that Mickey ends up freaking out and leaves, saying “if your gut is that that’s what you’re looking for (i.e., Bentley), then please send me home…. I’m just not interested.” And Blake, who had never gotten the chance to have a one-on-one date with Ashley, gets booted. I hate to say it, but the writing was on the wall for him.
So let’s tune in two weeks (next Monday is the July 4th holiday) to see what happens when the group travels to Taiwan. And I just want to add that they previewed the rest of the episodes from the series last night, and it did not look pretty – a lot of tears and misery. Of course, I cannot wait to see what happens, which brings me to my favorite question…who do you think will be the last Bachelor standing? I am totally perplexed after seeing last night’s montage, but I can’t wait to hear your thoughts…..